On June 8, 1960, in Boone County Memorial Hospital in the city of Columbia, MO the weather would be clear and warm. The low that day was 54°F. The high was 78°F. But at 1:56 a.m. that morning this information would not yet be known. What was known was that Dr. See would deliver of Anne Cooper Gay, Wife of Dr. George R. Gay M.D. a bouncing seven-pound eight-ounce baby boy whom they would name "Roger Phillip" Because they liked the name. He was to be the first and eldest of three children this couple would have. That was perhaps a rather nondescript means of entering this world but that is how I arrived.
I lived in several different cities in seven years. In 1967, I finally found myself established in Berkeley, CA. I lived there from 1967 until I left for college in 1984. While I lived there I attended Laney College and earned two architecturally related degrees and then I went to North Dakota where I attended NDSU earning two more Architecture Degrees. From there I moved to Southern CA and spent several years there before moving to Saint Paul, Minnesota in 1991 to keep myself employed. In 1993 I moved again this time stopping for a short time in Mesa, Arizona. I like to joke about my time in Arizona by saying that I spent one year there, and it was the longest three years of my life! The person who would be my first wife arrived on Halloween of 1996 and stayed with me a short time before she went to live with her parents in Albuquerque, NM.
In 1996 I moved again, This time to Albuquerque, NM to be with my now fiancée and to find work in Architecture which I did in less than a week. I worked in architecture for approximately four years and changed fields to teaching in 2000. Then in March of 2003 I was forced to leave the teaching profession and ultimately the state of New Mexico. I arrived back in Southern CA in April of 2004 and took up where I had left off in the field of architecture. I was able to keep that job for five years at which point as they say in The Outlaw Josey Wales : “First the Silver run outta the Santa Rio, Then the people run out, then the whiskey, then the beer run out…” In my case it was: “First the Apartment run out, then the money run out, then the wife run out” and not necessarily in that order. In any case I found myself in the year 2009 with an impending divorce, no place to live, no job, a car, and my cat.
My divorce from my first wife was finalized in 2013 and I spent the next few years working in Southern CA in a warehouse before I met the most amazing woman in the world in a closed group on Facebook. We corresponded and spent hours on the phone talking with each other. In 2017 I travelled to Texas three times to be with her. Once in June, Once in September, and Once around Christmas. Each time I left to go back to California, I felt as if a piece of my heart was being ripped away. In April of 2018 I moved to Texas and in August of 2019 I made her my second wife. How I got to Texas is the subject of another story. I have been here ever since and I love the state and my gorgeous wife.